Have you ever had a dream so big that you were afraid to share it with anyone for fear of being ridiculed or condemned for having aspirations that are too lofty? And what if you did decide to share that dream with those closest to you and they laughed, belittled or outright ignored your heartfelt goals? If this has happened to you I’m here to tell you that it will be okay. Sometimes the road to our dreams is quite lonely and many will not understand the path you’ve chosen. There are plenty of reasons why someone might not be supportive of your endeavors- jealousy, self-hatred, envy or fear. The list goes on, but your energy should not be spent on why those individuals don’t support you but rather on how you will achieve your dreams despite not having an external support system. Here are 3 ways to jump start your dreams when there is no one there to believe in you:
1. Be your own hero. Too often we are looking around for inspiration and motivation when all along it resides within ourselves. If you are looking for support, encouragement, high-fives and pats on the back you better get used to giving them to yourself. Learn to celebrate this period of growth and enjoy your own company. There is something liberating in self-validation and not needing the opinion and advice of others to validate your existence.
2. Get an imaginary friend. Now before you think I’m going coo-koo on you, I simply mean identify people in the world who you do relate to and research their efforts for daily motivation. My imaginary friends include Warren Buffet, Harriet Tubman, Tony Robbins, Warren Vincent Peale, Madam CJ Walker, Napoleon Hill- just to name a few. I am constantly reading their books and articles and follow them (the living ones of course) on social media to stay current with their teachings. As Wendy says they are like “friends in my head”!
3. Find new people to interact with that are on the same vibration as you. Growth often means leaving people behind who remain stagnant or who don’t want to see you grow. Yes, it hurts and you will probably fight it but it’s all a part of a process. At some point you have to determine which is more important- your current circle of “friends” that might be holding you back or pursuing your dreams at all costs without fear of losing those who don’t support you anyway.
Having a support system is essential to your success but you’ve got to find new and creative ways to get the support you need. Start with yourself, and grow from there. What I’ve found is that the support that I need always miraculously shows up when I least expect it. Ask and it shall be given- God never leaves us out to dry.